Feeling Stuck in Networking? Try Thinking Like a Scientist

If you’ve ever felt like networking is awkward, intimidating, or even pointless, you’re not alone. For many first-generation students, the word “networking” brings up a storm of doubts: What if I sound fake? What if I don’t have anything to offer? What if I get rejected?

I recently came across a refreshing article in Inside Higher Ed that flips networking on its head—suggesting we approach it the way scientists approach research: with curiosity, observation, experimentation, and reflection. The idea isn’t about winning at networking—it’s about learning and adapting, like running small experiments to test a hypothesis.

This mindset shift can be a game-changer, especially if you're early in your career journey or still trying to find your voice in professional spaces. Here’s how to apply it to your own path.

🔬 Step 1: Treat Networking as a Curiosity-Driven Experiment

Instead of: “I have to impress this person.

”Try: “I wonder what I can learn from this person.”

Just like a scientist doesn’t know the outcome of an experiment before starting, you don’t need to know exactly where a conversation will lead. Begin with a hypothesis—“I think I’ll enjoy talking to people working in brand strategy”—and test it. If it doesn’t go well? That’s still valuable data.

Action Tip:

Make a list of 3 roles, industries, or companies you’re curious about. Reach out to someone in each one and compare your impressions after each conversation.

🧪 Step 2: Set Small, Low-Stakes Goals

Big networking goals—like landing an internship—can be overwhelming. Instead, think smaller:

“Can I ask one thoughtful question?”

“Can I connect with someone new this month?”

“Can I send a follow-up message that feels genuine?”

These micro-goals help build confidence and momentum, while removing pressure.

Action Tip:

Before your next networking event or LinkedIn message, write out just one goal you want to achieve. Celebrate if you meet it, and remember to celebrate all of your wins, small or big.

🔍 Step 3: Observe and Reflect

After each interaction, treat it like the end of a lab session. Ask yourself:

• What went well?

• What could I improve next time?

• How did the conversation make me feel?

This reflection phase is where the growth happens.

Action Tip:

Keep a networking journal or spreadsheet. Track who you spoke with, what you learned, and what you might try differently next time.

🔁 Step 4: Iterate and Try Again

Science isn’t about getting it perfect the first time—and neither is networking. Each interaction gives you new insights about your interests, your values, and how you show up in professional spaces.

Action Tip:

Revisit a past connection you felt unsure about. Use your new approach—curiosity, experimentation, reflection—and see how the interaction changes.

Think of it as debugging your communication style, one message at a time.

🧠 Final Reflection: Networking as Self-Discovery

Networking isn’t just about who you know. It’s about discovering who you’re becoming. When you shift from performance mode to exploration mode, you’re not only building connections—you’re also building self-awareness.

As first-gen students and emerging leaders, we may not always have insider connections—but we can have a learner’s mindset. And that, honestly, is one of our biggest strengths.

Not sure what to say when reaching out? Head to the Toolkit tab for "Networking Prompts to Get You Started"—your guide to confident, curiosity-driven networking.